You have a voice, it’s now time to use it

Non-negotiable boundaries in a partnership after sexual betrayal has occurred is necessary for a betrayed partner to feel safe. These limits inform your partner what you are no longer willing to tolerate. The betrayer realizes they are no longer able to deceive their partner and have boundaries imposed upon them by their partner. These boundaries are the firm limits that individuals set for themselves and are unwilling to compromise on. They often revolve around essential needs, values, and personal well-being. These are messages to your partner that you will not tolerate any signs of addictive behaviors. Some examples of non-negotiable boundaries after sexual betrayal may include: 

• End communication with affair partner, disengage in pornography use, stop hiring sex workers etc. 

• Engage in a recovery process and follow through on therapist’s treatment recommendations

• Respect separation that betrayed partner is requesting, whether removal from the home or in home separation

• Request your partner to have monitoring software placed on all devices

It's crucial for betrayed partners to have open and honest communication about their boundaries, ensuring that they are respected and honored. Non-negotiable boundaries should always be upheld to maintain a healthy and respectful relationship during the recovery process.